Little tricks for big success in your relationships
There are millions and millions of articles on the Internet and in main stream magazines on how to impress a girl. There are also hundreds of
books on how to impress a girl. But how, really, do you get her attention, keep her attention, and make her come back for more of the wonderful
you?
Could it be more about you and how you react? And have you thought about how to build a great and happy relationship?
Do you always follow the men’s versions of The Rules, you know the ones that your buddy says that you wait x number of times, you avoid a, b,
c, and you be sure to always do d, e, and f? Do you follow the special advice on how to impress a girl who is hot or who is rich? Do you go with
the psychology of genders, and follow the generalizations that all girls want Brad Pitt, wow I'm going to have to work on my six pack.... all
girls are on diets, and all girls love to shop?
If you do try to abide by the rules of any of the above, aren’t you eliminating a number of options to meet and maybe get involved with a girl
who perhaps loves cars and can drop an engine, rebuild it, and replace it in three weeks? Won’t you be leaving out the girls who have no money
but are potential money-makers as they are working two jobs and taking classes at night to become a veterinarian or a geologist?
Think of it like choosing a car. You pick out the make, model, year, color, and features that you believe are best for you. After driving your
car for a couple of months, you realize that perhaps you should have purchased a larger car, or that maybe the leather seats would have been
better, or on hot sunny days, the sunroof would have been nice.
You get the idea. Following some (I said some) advice on how to impress a girl might in fact have the opposite effect: you may gross her out
(if she’s not like the girls targeted in the how-to-impress-a-girl manual) when you were trying to intrigue her, you may make her laugh when you
intended to make her swoon, or you may make her scream when you meant to make her giggle or laugh.
So how about this? How about following a few righteous and fair methods that work almost every time because you weren’t working at them or
weren’t working her?
Be real. And realistic. You say one lie (that you are bold-faced aware you are saying), and you have just changed the game. You now have to
keep track of the lie, never forget it, and know that that lie is what part of your potential relationship is now based on. For she will believe
you. And one day, if you are both lucky enough to get involved, she will find out. And she will dump you.
Try and be yourself yes I know it's easier said than done. You could feel nervous infact listen up (some girls find that adorable); hey are
you clumsy, if you are clumsy (some girls find this endearing) you will also remember that the girl you seek to impress might not be the one for
you no matter how close a next-door neighbor she is or how many years you took her to the same football games and movies together.
Do not bother bartering above your station if she is not the type to date your type just move on.
Be confident and self-reliant. Women really do love confident guys. Don’t think yourself unworthy of every woman who walks into the club or
bar either. Try to strike a healthy balance between being charming and confident and definitely not over protective.
Be interesting and interested. Have interests other than guns. Talk about something besides your Nazi swastika collection. In fact, if you are
a skinhead or neo-Nazi, you may have other things on your mind besides how to impress a girl. So ignore this article, won’t you? When you ask her
questions, for God’s sake LISTEN to the answer. Don’t look at her boobs. Don’t keep saying uh-huh. Uh-huh. Uh-huh.
Be healthy. Did you know studies show that we are attracted to the body and face that represents the optimum reproductive abilities and
features? That is, white teeth, symmetrical shapes, etc., they are not consciously sought after but certainly are part of the search. Brush,
bathe, shave, etc… And smell good. Whatever that means.
Be fair. Do not put her on some Madonna (or Madonna/whore combo) pedestal. She is not Angelina Jolie. She is not your mother. She won’t make
love to you forty times a week. She won’t cook for you or jump up from her studies to do the dishes if you demand it, expect it, or insist that
Mommy always did it for you. If you are just meeting her, please don’t tell her how much you adore your mother or how many nights a week Mom
comes along on dates with you. In fact, if you’re an actual Mommy’s Boy, don’t even bother reading this.
And be positive. You don’t have to fake joy and sunshine and lollipops if your favorite pet just died, but try to see something good in every
person you meet, not just the one that your biology cannot ignore. Try to see, especially, some good in yourself. Smiling and jokes are often
great bonding mechanisms. So is "Hello" especially with a smile and don't forget when in conversation pretend your eyes are glued to your partner
with sticky warm toffee. Don't even break eye contact after she has finished speaking. When you must look away do it ever so slowly. Just like
pulling your finger away from that sticky warm toffee.
